What this means is that this concept is to understand how the behavior of others is only a reflection of them. If someone gives us feedback on our behaviour or about us as human beings, it is important to remember that no opinion is really objective; We all have our prejudices, our filters, through which we see the world. That is why we should not regard the views of others on ourselves or our actions as perfectly correct. When someone talks about us, he really says something about himself and how he sees the world. Relationships can quickly become misunderstandings and struggles when people make assumptions. That is why the third agreement is: “Don`t make assumptions.” This path begins with the four agreements. These are new ways of life that you can voluntarily follow. These agreements are: to agree, not to take things personally (#2) gives us the opportunity to look inward, to find and change the old arrangements and beliefs — most of the lies of our domestication in childhood — that involve us emotionally and push us to react. The author of the article describes precisely the “dream” of people that distorts what people say or do. It is a powerful gift from Toltec Wisdom.
Thank you, Allan, for sharing your wisdom. I am honored that someone of your stature would take the time to read my article and clarify the importance of the agreements. The first chord seems simple. But he understands a few different notions. Literally, it means “sinless.” Don Miguel Ruiz invites us to be in our sinless words, as the first way to replace our old chords with new ones. Both the words we speak to each other and the words we say to others. When we love ourselves, we use friendly words for ourselves, instead of committing the “sin” of acting against yourself. We take responsibility for our actions, but we are not guilty. When we love others, we will not applaud or speak badly of them, but we share our common humanity. They said, “I met someone who had read this book… I`m not going to do that.
Apparently, they didn`t get any of that, and that`s why they ran you over. So you haven`t read the book, and you`re able to express such strong opinions about the book? The study of Toltec`s history makes no sense when it comes to understanding this book. It`s like looking back at the old Hindu and deciding that there is nothing to gain from yoga or meditation. People have always figured out how to manipulate their minds, and even though they may have seen it in terms of magic or religion, the methods they have learned are not negligible for that reason alone. We can now (better) understand what really happens when a person uses meditation, visualization, etc. to change their thought processes. This book is nothing but a guide to self-gap and love of everything and everyone. Pushed to its limits, it frees you to be able to love those you could normally avoid because of the negative emotions they create in you. The ability to see the chain of events that range from something a person says to the emotional reaction in you is the basis of many cognitive behavioral therapies. You can`t control the actions of others to see the emotional reaction you like the most, you can only (learn) control the mechanism behind your emotional reaction.